Our Type 1 Diabetes Diagnosis

When I left you in our last post, we had just learned that Baby had Type 1 Diabetes, and our family would not be moving to Okinawa, Japan.

There was still a lot in the air, would Paul go without us? What would happen to us if he did? What did this diagnosis mean? What about the dogs (who we shipped to Japan in April)? And the stuff the movers just picked up to ship to Japan? We were scheduled to move out of our house in a few weeks, we had plans to sell our cars, we had potential buyers for both.

First I’ll start with Baby’s diagnosis. Type 1 Diabetes. It’s not something we could have prevented. It’s different from the diabetes that you develop later in life, often as a result lifestyle choices. This had nothing to do with what he ate, or how he spent his first year of life. It just happened. His pancreas stopped producing insulin. Likely his pancreas has been slowly dropping in this function for months. Some of the symptoms from decreased insulin are also symptoms that tie in with growing babies, like increased hunger, decreased sleep. These are things that you wouldn’t rush off to the doctor for. But even if we had, even if 4 months ago a doctor had told us that Baby’s pancreas wasn’t doing as well as it was supposed to be doing, there is nothing that would have ‘fixed’ it. This was pretty much inevitable.

So now we found ourselves in the hospital, trying wrap our heads around this diagnosis, and answer all the questions I listed above. I think the stress of figuring out all of the stuff about our move to Japan, sort of overshadowed the diagnosis. Not in a bad way, but in that we didn’t go straight into heartbreak, we weren’t devastated. Our first step was to swiftly go into action to try to deal with our move.

In short we were able to quickly get enrolled in EFMP, which allowed us to speed up the process of getting Baby officially medically disqualified from moving to Okinawa. This disqualification, although depressing, was vital to our goal of having Paul’s orders to Okinawa modified so no one would have to move. We also had to figure out the situation with the dogs. I haven’t talked much about it on social media, but in April we made the decision to send the dogs in advance to Okinawa, so they would be there when we arrived. Most airlines have a heat embargo during the summer from late May-late September. They do not allow snub nosed dogs to fly at all. This is because they overheat easier, thus it’s more dangerous for them to fly. I immediately got to work with our transport company to get the dogs back to America if we had time, because they had already embarked on the most expensive Japanese vacation any dog has ever had. Time wasn’t on our side though and we were only able to get one dog on a last minute flight before the heat embargo, so the other is being kept with the dog transport until she can fly again. It’s not a perfect situation, but it’s the safest for her.

By the time we got all of the above figured out, we had already begun to work on a routine, we had already had our ‘crash course’ in T1 Diabetes management. We were fast learning about insulin, glucose, testing Baby’s blood, checking for ketones, how to properly do injections, how to use an insulin pump, and how to count carbs. We had a few setbacks, we had some really high highs and some lows, but after 9 days we were discharged from the hospital. I really have nothing but positive things to say about the hospital. We had great doctors and nurses, we met some great people, and we are positive about Paul’s future. We have been told over and over, because he is so young, and we are able to establish his care properly, he will never know what life is like before diabetes. Although things seem difficult now, his life should be easier because this happened while he was so young, versus it happening in 5 or 10 years.

We are now home, establishing our new normal, and learning how to keep everyone healthy. We have had a few setbacks, but we are back on track this week.  We have been working on putting our home back together, it took a while but we were able to get our stuff that was packed up the morning of his initial hospital trip back, before it left for Japan.  Baby Paul had his first birthday a couple weeks ago, and he got more toys and clothes than he could ever imagine.

We are still learning, but we will continue to do our best.

We aren’t moving to Okinawa

 

We were supposed to fly to Okinawa next week. We had planned, gone through all the screenings, gotten passports and airplane tickets, we were ready. A couple of weeks ago, on a Monday morning, the movers came to pack our unaccompanied baggage, which is the stuff we wanted there when we got there. Before this we had all been sick, for about 2 weeks all 4 of us had been fighting a nasty cold. That day baby Paul was really fussy, but he was sick like the rest of us. As the day wore on, the movers came and left with about a quarter of our belongings, the baby seemed okay just cranky.

Later in the afternoon everyone was resting and I took the baby outside to play and I noticed he was randomly gagging, sort of dry heaving. I decided he should nap too. While trying to get him to sleep Paul noticed he was breathing rapidly, shortly after I couldn’t get him to latch on to breastfeed. This was the most concerning symptom because he’s never in his life refused the breast, but it was like he couldn’t latch because he was struggling to breathe.

I rushed him to the ER. I believe they thought he had RSV, he was immediately given a nebulizer, IV fluids and a chest x-ray, which came back normal. The next step was the doctor tested his blood sugar. At that point the doctor told me I needed to call my husband because my baby was going to need to be transferred to the pediatric ICU at the larger medical facility about an hour away. They said he was in Diabetic Ketoacidosis. I didn’t really know what any of this meant, except that he almost surely had Type 1 Diabetes, and if that were true everything was about to change.

Within a few hours we were in an ambulance being transferred to the hospital. Baby was stable but his blood sugar was still way too high, and he still had a huge amount of ketones in his blood, which were basically poisoning his kidneys and liver from what I understand. Once we got to the ICU we quickly met several doctors and nurses which told us there was almost no question he had Diabetes. We spent all night testing babys blood sugar hourly, checking the levels for ketones, and adjusting his insulin and glucose dosages. The first night they wouldn’t let me breastfeed him because they needed to be in control of his glucose and insulin while they rid his body of the ketones that were poising his blood. It was a very long night with pretty much no sleep.

The next few days are a blur. He was officially diagnosed with Type 1 (T1) Diabetes, and we rushed to get him enrolled in the military program that helps our family when we have a family member with special needs; EFMP– Exceptional Family Member Program, we needed to be enrolled so we could try to stop our move to Okinawa because they do not have the military medical professionals on the island to treat insulin dependent diabetes.  We knew right away, with Baby’s diagnosis the kids and I would not be moving, but we were desperately trying to make it so Paul wouldn’t have to go without us.

So that’s why we aren’t moving to Okinawa. I am still very sad, for a lot of reasons. I’ll write another post and finish the story later this weekend. I need to dry my eyes and drink some coffee right now. I’ll leave you with a picture of my precious little boy, being a brave dude with his little robot arm, that protected the only IV line that he didn’t blow out the first few days in the hospital.

Thanks for the warm welcome California!

A couple of weeks ago San Diego county was all ablaze, like I think at one time there was 10 or 11 fires going at once. It was crazy. It was also all started the day we had our stuff moved into base housing. It was a bit scary, I won’t lie, I was a tiny tad worried for a day or two. Fire scares the shit out of me. But the wonderful firefighters on Camp Pendleton and San Diego County did a wonderful job of keeping us, and thousands of others, safe.

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From Evey’s bedroom window

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Out our bedroom window

Fire scares the shit out of me. But the wonderful firefighters on Camp Pendleton and San Diego County did a wonderful job of keeping us, and thousands of others, safe.

PCS Adventure Log Part 2

When we last posted, we had just left Virginia and we were on our way back West, working our way towards our new home in Sunny California! 
Our first stop was back in Albuquerque to rescue Aunt Andrea from all the animals! Because 3 dogs and 3 cats, makes her an animal hoarder. 

We then adventured back to Tucson, to spend a couple days with my family before we checked into California! 

Sadly here my camera stopped working correctly and don’t really have any pictures until after we got to California. 

PCS Adventure Log Part 1

It’s been about 2 months since we started our adventure out of Montana. On April 8th the movers came and packed us out. That was a big day for little Evey, Her first move (from Helena to Butte) she was only about 3 months old, so there was a lot more going on, that she was aware of.
To keep her out of the way we played outside, it was warming up, but as you can see there was still plenty of snow on the ground. 

On April 9th we drove out of Montana and headed South, our first night we spent in Salt Lake City, and then drove on. That second day we stopped at Bryce Canyon. Fun Fact: I’m distantly related to Ebeneezer Bryce, the dude that place is named after. 
Evey was a teeny little monster at Bryce Canyon, so we didn’t stay long. She wanted to run up to the edge of the canyon, and mommy wouldn’t let her. 

We stayed that night in Page, Az. At not the nicest motel, but that’s what you get when you wait until 5pm to book a room in a small town. We got up bright and early the next day, and continued on to Tucson. We made our fun stop that day at Meteor Crater. I have been there once, but I was very young. Paul had never been there. It sounded really cool, but it’s really just a big hole in the ground that you pay $15 to look at. At least Paul was free since he is Active Duty, and Evey was free since she is teeny tiny. 

That night we made it to Tucson, after getting caught in Phoenix and Tucson rush hour, and me almost ending up in tears. I don’t handle traffic well and after driving all day I was tired and frazzled and Evey was screaming at the top of her little lungs by the time we hit Tucson. No matter how many times I said “we are almost there, We are so close” she would just cry. 
But we made it, and we spent a lovely weekend at my parents, relaxing and avoiding being in the car.  We enjoyed fun in the sun, and considerably warmer temperatures. 

From Tucson we went on to Albuquerque, where we stopped at Aunt Andrea’s house and dropped off our monsters. The pets were going to stay with her while we continued our adventure East. Andrea has a Boston of her own, so when we added our two into the mix things got a little crazy at her house. She sure is brave to take on three dogs for us. I know her house was bananas for nearly three weeks. 

Next we continued on East, not many pictures of the drive, it was boring, We did stop a couple times, once in the middle of Oklahoma to let Evey burn off some steam because we decided to push all the way to Arkansas that first night. The second day of our adventure East was equally boring, and that night I had horrible food poisoning or something and was sick all night and most of the next day, BTW being sick and having to check out of a hotel and get into a car is the worst. But I was able to pull it together when Evey got sick too. Needless to say, that day was horrible, but we made it to Grannys in Northern Virginia, and we got a little food in our tummies and slept like angels. I also slept most of the next day, because I was still feeling pretty dead.
We had a wonderfull time at Granny’s. Evey got to meet her Aunt Maggie, and her two Uncles, Pat & Ben, she got to spend some wonderful quality time with everyone. She loved spending time with Granny. We had a wonderful Easter and loved picking the flowers in Granny’s back yard.

Sadly the time came for us to head back west so we could make our way to our new home in California. 
Check back in a couple days for PCS Adventure Log Part 2! 

Still Moving!

I have been updating regularly on instagram – AlanaMarie26 check me out! 

We are no longer homeless! #mccawleysmove2014 #camppendleton
I am still in the process of moving, we have done our cross country family visits, gotten our address at Camp Pendleton and we are back at my moms house for the weekend. We will be setting up at our home next week and if any of you are still here, I should be back to regular posting the week after. I have lots of posts in mind, traveling with a toddler, fun at the zoo, car friendly snacks for tots. So make sure you check back soon! 

Travel update.

Happy Easter! 
We have ween out of Montana for an little more than 10 days now. Traveled to Arizona, New Mexico, and now Virginia. We have settled for about the next week plus, and then we will go back, and head to California. Driving cross country with a toddler is no fun, but we found ways to cope. Once we get settled in Cali I’ll write up a bit on it with our tricks. I really hope the trip back is less eventful than the one over here though. We got a flat on the freeway and then the next day Evey and I both had tummy troubles that required multiple stops. But we made it. And now we are relaxing at Granny’s house. Evey is napping while mommy lays with her, catching up on YouTube, Facebook, and now blogging. 
I want to say thank you to my sister for watching my animals while We are traveling, she has got her hands full. 
She has her own Boston terrier, and her own two cats, and she is also watching my 2 Boston’s and my cat. 
Puppy party!!!
I hope you are having a great Easter holiday, and I’ll try to keep updating as frequently as time allows. 
I apologize for any weird spacing or photo sizes, I’m writing from the iPad, don’t feel like charging the laptop. 

On The Move

 

Moving physically, not bloggerly- Movers are coming this week and we are headed to Sunny California after we take some much needed personal time. I’ve tried to set things up so you don’t notice my absence, and I will try to post from the road periodically. We should be back to your regularly scheduled blogging in mid May. Until then have fun and find me on facebook and instagram and maybe even YouTube for more frequent updates!

OkiNinjaKitty- Life in Okinawa, after the military

Today I would like to introduce you to Kathryn, a blogger/vlogger located in Okinawa, Japan. Kathryn creates informational posts and videos about Okinawa, everything from exciting things to do, places to eat, and even basic japanese. Kathryn has been living in Okinawa for 7 years and is full of wonderful information and great ideas for those living in, moving to, or just visiting Okinawa. She was able to take some time to answer questions for anyone curious about the girl behind the camera, as well as anyone wondering about long term living in Okinawa, outside of being active duty military.  


  • What’s the number one thing you miss from America? 


I honestly can’t say that there is anything that I miss about or from America. Nowadays with the iPhone and 3G/4G networks (something that didn’t exist when I first got here) I can talk, chat, send pictures to and even video conference with family at the drop of a dime. In fact some of my family members are closer to me now then they were when I was living only a few states away. I can’t say that I miss anything material either. You can get anything you need right here in Japan if you know where to look.


  • Who initiated the idea of you staying on island after your husband’s enlistment? Was it a hard sell for the other person? 


Neither of us had the idea of staying in Okinawa before the other. It was an idea that we came to collectively through a lot of discussions about what we wanted to do next in our lives. To be completely honest, I think that if you have to “sell” it to the other person you’re already starting off on the wrong foot because (as we will uncover throughout the rest of these questions) it’s a difficult journey. In my opinion both parties need an equal drive to make it work.



  • What were some of the main reasons you wanted to stay, and what were some of your husbands reasons? 


The both of us really liked the way our lives were going and liked what the future could look like if we stayed here. How safe the island is was a huge plus.


  • What if any reasons were there for you to leave Okinawa? 


None.


  • Do you ever miss being an active duty spouse? 


No. I never liked being an active duty spouse or living a military lifestyle.


  • How long do you plan on staying in Okinawa?


We don’t have any plans to leave Okinawa any time in the foreseeable future.




  • How do you handle medical issues? Are you seen on base or do you go out in town? If you go out in town is it really expensive like it is if you were to seek medical care here in the states without insurance? 



Great (and very important) question! I like to handle all of my medical issues out in town. There is a laundry list of hospitals, clinics and specialists on island who can help you and your family with any medical needs you may have. There are also hospitals and clinics that accommodate English speakers so being proficient in Japanese isn’t necessary. No. Even if you are uninsured you’re not going to see anything near the outrageous prices you will find in the US. Here’s an example. A few years before leaving the US I had this skin issue pop up on my arm and cause some problems. I went to the doctor, had to get a referral to a dermatologist and then from there had to try 2 or 3 different prescriptions to try and make the issue go away. The price tag with my insurance coverage was around $300USD not including the appointment to get the referral. Years later the same skin thing popped up again only this time making an appearance on my face. . . YAY. . . so I headed to the local dermatologist one morning during “walk in” hours. He recognized right away what the problem was, handed me a prescription and I was out of there in 10 minutes. Total price tag uninsured $60USD.



  • What forms of insurance are available to someone who may be interested in staying in or moving to Okinawa? 


The type of insurance you get depends on the type of job you have. If you find employment which gives you a Japanese work visa then you will be eligible for Japan’s national health insurance. This type of health insurance is based on your annual income making it affordable and will ensure you can be taken care of without having to worry.
(NOTE: There are also other types of health insurance available in Japan but that’s a story for another day.)
If you are working under SOFA Status you are likely going to end up with some form of international health insurance. International health insurance has it’s ups and downs. The biggest negative to international health insurance is that in most cases you have to pay up front and then file your claim getting the refund later.


  • How hard was it to find employment to remain on the island? One of you has to have a job with SOFA correct? 


First I want to answer the second part of your question. No, it is not correct that either you or your spouse requires a job with SOFA Status in order to remain on Okinawa (or more accurately in Japan). This is just one of your many options. Another one of your options is to go after a job that will give you and your family Japanese work visas. There are many ways that a Japanese work visa can be obtained which can all be researched through Japanese immigrations and your local embassy. The most common is to find an employer who is willing to hire you and sponsor your visa. You can also obtain a visa by opening a business or even based on your annual income. Again, you can research all of this information and find out what works best for you.
Now, how hard was it to find employment? It was a challenge . . . . . some might say difficult but I want to stress that it is not impossible. If you decide to go the route of staying in/moving to Japan (or any other country for that matter) you need to have a solid understanding of the fact that you aren’t going to just be handed a job. There are a lot of things that need to fall into place. You will need to be experienced and good at what you do, have a solid education and of course be what they are looking for. Sometimes it works out, sometimes it doesn’t. If you press on you’ll be fine.


  • How hard was it finding housing that is not for active duty? Briefly what is the process? 


Finding a place to live what the most difficult challenge that we faced throughout the entire “settling in Okinawa” process. We had to jump through a lot of burning hoops and even then we ran into problem after problem. Here in Okinawa there is not a solid process for finding housing like there is in other parts of Japan. With so many military members coming in and out all the time Americans are a huge flight risk so you’re at the mercy of any agency that is willing to work with you. In many cases it really isn’t even the agency but more what the landlord is or isn’t willing to accept.


  • What are some reliable housing agencies for non-military 


Reliable Housing Agencies – Via OkiNinjaKitty blog


  • Generally speaking is Okinawa cheaper than the United States?



Is Okinawa Cheeper than the United States – Via OkiNinjaKitty Blog





  • How fluent are you in Japanese? Can you read it well? 



I know enough Japanese to get by in certain situations. I can also speak enough Uchinaguchi (the native language of Okinawa) to be polite with the non-Japanese/non-English speaking people I have met over the years. As far as reading goes I can read enough to order off a menu, go grocery shopping to find a shop that I might be looking for.


  • How did you learn Japanese? 



All the Japanese that I know I learned through practical application. For example everyone eats right? So I learned all the Japanese phrases and such that would be useful in a restaurant setting. This was a great place to start because I mean how often do you find yourself in a restaurant? All the time right! So you use that Japanese a lot, get the pronunciation down and move on to the next life challenge. For me it was the motorcycle shop. My bike needed a new tire so I learned all the Japanese phrases that I might need to communicate that to them and BAM now I can talk to mechanics with ease. The more situations I encounter. . . the more Japanese I learn. What other challenges do you face often, as an American living in a foreign country? Finding friends and meeting people has proven to be a huge challenge, not necessarily because I am living in a foreign country but, because I am living in Okinawa. This has become exceedingly more difficult as the years progress. The longer you’re here, the stranger position you end up in. Regardless who you meet everyone thinks you’re new here and that can be unpleasant after a while.

Friendship challenges when in Japan long term – Via OkiNinjaKitty Blog


  • You have the YouTube Channel OkiNinjaKitty, how long have you been making videos? 



 I have had the OkiNinjaKitty Channel since early 2011.


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OkiNinjaKitty


  • What made you start making videos?



That fact that I love filming as a hobby was a huge help. It wasn’t like I had to learn to like carrying around a camera. Then when I really started to sink my teeth into YouTube I started noticing that some of the videos that I was really enjoying were actually just home movies other people were posting but rather then making them personal it was as though they were telling the viewer useful information or even just fun tidbits about life. I found myself learning about everyday life in Osaka, Shizuoka, Tokyo, Hokkaido. . . . very cool. . . but very disappointing that none of these videos were coming out of Okinawa. I remember thinking about how cool it would be for those coming to Okinawa to have an idea of what was around even before they got here. A few weeks later I started filming and posting videos on the OkiNinjaKitty Channel.


  • What are the questions you get asked most often?



I get a lot of questions. Most of which revolve around either living here without depending on the base (where to buy produce, where to buy clothes). “What should I pack for a two year tour in Okinawa?” is another one of the questions that I receive a lot. I also get a lot of questions about the relationship between the US Military and the people of Okinawa. These questions usually come after protests and big news stories. People want to understand both sides of the situation and I’ve built an environment with the OkiNinjaKitty Channel where people are comfortable to ask those types of questions without harsh judgement (something that doesn’t really exist here in Okinawa or on the internet for that matter). This type of environment (not just for US Mil/Okinawan Relationship questions but ALL questions/communication on my channel) is very important to me.



  • What is your favorite Okinawan or Japanese dish to eat?


I love squid. My favorite preparation is either fried or dried. I just can’t get enough of it.



  • What is your favorite place to eat in Okinawa?


My favorite place to eat in Okinawa would have to be Double Decker. It’s this great little pub style restaurant in Mihama, tucked away in the back corner of the Sega building. It’s got a great atmosphere and the food has consistently been great throughout the years.
Double Decker (1) Double Decker (Lunch!) – OkiNinjaKitty blog


  • Do you cook Okinawa/Japanese dishes often? What is your favorite to cook?



I often find myself cooking Okinawa and Japanese style dishes. Although you don’t have to eat local to live here I find that it is not only enjoyable but it is easier on the wallet as well. My favorite to com is goya chanpuru. It’s easy, quick, affordable and my husband and I love it!
Recipe: Goya Chanpuru


  • What are your favorite kinds of events to attend?


My favorite events to attend are the ones that you won’t find in a guide book. You’d be amazed at how different events are that don’t focus on drawing in tourists or impressing foreigners. The one event that sticks out in my mind are the goat fights. it was a small festival being held up in the mountains which turned out to be the most welcoming and enjoyable experience I had all year.

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  • What kinds of things do you do for fun? Beside making videos for your channel?


I like to draw and read but mostly only in the peak summer months when it’s too hot to do too much physical activity. The rest of the time I like to be doing something outdoors. I enjoy gardening and going for walks.


  • I know some people complain about getting bored on island. How do you keep it interesting?


There are quite a lot of people here on Okinawa who complain about getting bored and it honestly blows my noggin’! I’ve been here nearing a decade and there are still lists of things I haven’t seen so long that I can barely keep track. It’s funny, I was talking to a friend of mine who has been here for over 40 years and he feels the same way. That being said when I see people on Twitter, Tumblr or Facebook complaining about how they have been here 3 weeks and already “seen it all” there is a little part of me screaming inside going “There is more to Okinawa than Pineapple Park”!
We’ve kept things interesting in a few different ways over the years. At first we broke down what we wanted to find into sections. One of us would say “let’s find castles” and we would do on looking for castles. At first it was the more obvious UNESCO sites, then the popular castle sites and finally the not so popular sites (did you know there are actually hundreds here on Okinawa). Then it was parks, then it was beaches, then it was museums (there are tons of museums around Okinawa, many of them are free), dams and so on. Eventually we started to notice things on our way to find these places. A sign for a monument here, a sign that we couldn’t read but it looked super interesting there. . . so we changed out game plan. We started planning drives (and sometimes walks) with roads but no intended destinations. See something, double back and explore! This is how we have found probably about 90% of the awesome things that we have seen here on Okinawa.


  • How do you feel about living in a largely military community?



Okinawa is not what I would describe as a “largely military community”. Describing the collective community of Okinawa as such suggests (at least in my opinion) that most people’s lives are driven by the military in some way or you’re bumping elbows with military members and their families no matter where you go. Neither of these are the case.



  • Are you involved and comfortable with the military community?


No I am not involved with the military community. I would not say that I am uncomfortable with the military community as a whole but I would be lying if I said that I was never made uncomfortable by members of the military community based on the fact that I was an expat. It’s an unfortunate truth but one you should know regardless if you’re thinking about living here as an expat.


  • If not, are you involved and comfortable with the Okinawan Community?


I am definitely involved with the Okinawa community as well as the expat community here and throughout Japan. I am 100% comfortable with the Okinawan community.


  • Could you see yourself living there permanently?


Yes


  • What would you change to make it a more enjoyable and/or comfortable experience?


I honestly can’t think of anything that I could have changed to make life here more enjoyable/comfortable. It would have been great to have more information about Okinawa from the start so there was not so much guess work. Of course I can’t go back in time to fix that but I am trying through my channel, blog and Facebook page to create what it is I wish I had when I first got here.

You can find Kathryn:
YouTube
FaceBook

Blog

My Favorites: 

Hotto Motto
– I love Hotto Motto! Love! Love! Love!

Daiso: Everything you need, No, Seriously

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This video is my favorite because it’s very close to my old house, I used to ride my bike along this way almost every week, sometimes several times a week. 
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Who doesn’t love awesome vending machines?
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I hope you enjoyed reading this as much as I enjoyed putting it together. If you have any questions for Kathryn, head on over to the OkiNinjaKitty Facebook page, and tell her you found here here! 


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Where now, brown cow?

Cow-and-Calf-Montana

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I started writing this post towards the end of August.

Things have been a bit “hurry up, and wait” around my house.
One thing about the military lifestyle that I really hate is how there is no certainty, until it’s happening. Sometimes you don’t know if your husband is going somewhere, for sure, until he leaves.

We experienced this three years ago, waiting to see if Paul would be leaving Okinawa for Recruiters School in San Diego. He had been trying to stay on island a few more months so he could complete a course. Well we found out on a Friday that he would in fact be leaving Monday for Recruiters School.
Strangely enough this was almost 3 years ago to the day and we are in a similar situation right now. Currently we are waiting to find out the opposite, will Paul be staying on Recruiting Duty another 6 months? will his follow on assignment change? Are we still going to Camp Pendleton?

As I am writing this I have no answers to any of these questions. But by the time I publish it I will have some answers.

In June Paul requested to extend 6 months here on recruiting duty, until spring, in hopes we could get a duty station we really wanted (Okinawa) we figured at almost a year out, they surely could find a place for us there. Well extending here has been so back and forth since June I had stopped talking about it to family and friends, one week we are extending, the next we are not. About a month ago I decided to keep my mouth shut until his orders actually changed. Part of that is because I am superstitious and I think that because every time I opened my mouth something changed that it would be best to just not say anything, and for the longest time things stayed the same. Then I made a blog post about prepping our move to California again, and everything changed. We were told pretty much that our extension was a possibility and his command wanted us to stay on a few more months to get through the winter, someone was going to make some phone calls and see what they could find out about the status of his extension request. This was about a month ago. Then it was silence again. 

Well today we got our answer.
We are staying in Montana until April/May-ish.
We don’t know yet if we are going to California then, or if we will be going somewhere else. I have spent the whole day analyzing every possibility.
I don’t know how to feel, we wanted this as a chance to get back to Okinawa, but we don’t know if that will happen because it’s such short notice again (short notice for overseas move). Perhaps we could go somewhere else like Hawaii? Or we could still go to California, or we could go somewhere we don’t want to go. But it’s a risk Paul was wiling to take, he has done his time here in the arctic north, and we are taking a risk to try to get what we want. Although it’s probable we’ll just move to California in May. I was really getting used to the idea of Cali, scouting out the shopping, food, attractions. Making plans with a blogger friend to get together and go to Daiso. When we got our snow last week I was sort of thankful we hadn’t heard anything and in my mind was preparing for a sandy SoCal Christmas. I have been going over the layout of the base housing we would be moving into, decorating and placing furniture in my mind.

But instead of moving, I’ll be going to the Marine Corps Ball the week we would shave been leaving here, and then hunkering down for another winter.

Speaking of winter, we are having another winter storm warning tonight, we could wake up to snow again tomorrow…..